A very interesting fact to consider:
People who explicitly make New Year’s resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions, according to the grim statistics on resolutions from Statistic Brain.
And, most people don’t regularly make resolutions.
Without resolutions, the probability of achieving goals is clearly lower.
How to Achieve Your Goals
First, focus on goals rather than resolutions.
Resolutions rely on will power, and will power is usually more effective at the beginning of change, which is more of a marathon than a sprint.
Instead: setting goals, creating an action plan, neutralizing the fear and resulting negativity that often accompany change, getting support, and setting up structures like tracking your progress will help you go the distance.
Why Set Goals?
- Goals give clarity to your vision. They specify the end result of what you want to achieve.
- Goals make what you want tangible.You are declaring to yourself; this is what I want.
- Goals help you focus your daily energy toward making your wishes and dreams reality.You keep moving forward, even when you bump into obstacles.
A respected and effective method for setting goals and tracking your progress is the S.M.A.R.T. model by setting goals that are:
- Time Bound
An additional tip
When setting your goals: focus on what you do want rather than what you don’t want.
For example: rather than “I’m going to stop spending all my time applying for jobs online,” get as clear as you can on what you want. Depending on what you want, this might be “I’m going to spend four days a week updating my skills, developing my personal brand online, and networking; and one day applying for jobs.”
How to Determine Your Goals – 8 Questions to Ask Yourself
Then, begin to answer the following questions, taking time to contemplate your career satisfaction, your job search, and also your level of satisfaction with the different areas of your personal life: your health, your relationships, finances, personal and spiritual growth, fun and recreation, etc. They are all connected. Write the answers as they come to you. Grammar and spelling don’t count!
1. What were your finest moments over the past year?
What did you accomplish? Think about when you were proud of yourself, when you made a change, did something well, had a positive impact on someone else’s life, or solved a problem.
2. What were your biggest disappointments?
Remember when you disappointed yourself, or were disappointed by others; when your expectations weren’t met, when you met rejection, when your dreams weren’t fulfilled.
Or perhaps there are dreams you had for yourself earlier in life that weren’t fulfilled. What are you regretting?
3. What did you learn?
Looking at your answers to the first two questions, ask yourself what worked, and what would you like to do differently.
What would you like to do differently?
4. How are you getting in your own way?
One of the biggest obstacles to success are negative thoughts and feelings you may hold about your ability to succeed and your worthiness in getting what you want.
At this stage of life it’s particularly important to look at negative assumptions you may hold about change and aging. To get clearer about how you do that, answer these questions.
How do you limit yourself?
What do you say to yourself to explain these limitations?
Negative self talk is the voice of your fear and not the truth about you. Pick one of your toughest limiting beliefs and ask yourself – is that true? Really, really, 100% true?
You’ll find that even if there’s some truth in these limitations – there still isn’t a reason for not getting what you want. Over time, you can make huge strides in changing your negative beliefs. Start with one of the toughest ones, and see the difference.
5. What are your personal values?
Make a list. If your values aren’t clear to you, it can be helpful to think about how you’d like to be remembered. What would you like to be admired for – or who do you admire – and for what?
How well are you living your values?
6. What do you want your legacy to be? What impact do you want to make in the rest of your life?
What would you like to be remembered for? Who do you admire – and for what? These questions contain clues that will help you begin to think about this important question.
7. Which area(s) of your life will be your major focus?
If you could put one problem behind you, what would it be? Where do you want a breakthrough? What would make the biggest difference in your life?
8. What’s next?
Whether or not you answered every question in detail, allowing yourself time to reflect is a rejuvenating process that will help you have a deeper sense of who you are and your purpose. From that place of clarity, you will find it much easier to create a future that is uniquely rewarding for you.
Most people know the steps to take to succeed at common challenges. If you want to lose weight, you know you need to eat less and focus on nutritionally dense fools, and exercise. Or to find a new job: get clear on what you want, and present yourself to employers as willing and able to solve their problems.
This site is full of articles that explain, in detail, how to conduct an effective job search.
For most people the problem isn’t in knowing what to do, but in actually doing it.
Where people get stuck is in knowing how to customize general advice to your needs, make doable plans, overcome inner obstacles, and accept and learn to work with your own style for implementing change.
Create Your Action Plan
Start your step-by-step action plan by identifying as many steps toward your goal as you can and then put them in time order.
For example if your goal involves becoming effective at job search networking your list might look something like:
- Compile a data base of everyone you know
- Identify what keeps you from networking.
- Write your 90-second elevator speech.
- Schedule two information interviews every week.
- Join a professional association
- Attend at least one networking event every week.
- Keep your network updated on your progress.
Next, add more and more small steps the closer you get to present time is key.
Based on past research scientists assumed that people learn more slowly as they age.
Recent research finds that when older people break up tasks into smaller bits, and work incrementally, step-by-step, they accomplish much more.
For example, can you compile a database of everyone you know right now? If not, what do you need to do first? Choose a database? What do you need to know or do to choose a database? And so on, until the steps are specific and small enough that you can take action without resistance.
Then, schedule the steps in your calendar. When you are feeling resistant – which you will – taking the smallest action toward your goal will build your confidence.
When you begin working toward your goals motivation and will power tends to be highest. You think thoughts like, ‘I’ve started! I can do this’ and brush aside fears and negative thoughts.
But as time goes on and you’re tired, or bored, when you’re stressed or dealing with rejection, it becomes harder to stay motivated. That’s when the 3 S’s: self-understanding, support, and structure come in to help you stay the course.
Write a list of all of the ways reaching your goal will benefit you (and the people you care about). Include concrete results, “I’ll be able to pay off the mortgage” and also how you’ll feel. Post the list where you can see it frequently, and also make the list portable for on-the-go doses of motivation. You could write the list on 3X5 cards or input it into an online daily reminder.
Whether or not it is true that change becomes harder as you get older, you’ve certainly lived longer and had more opportunity to try and fail and grow scar tissue.
Experience can become a stumbling block if it means looking back and dwelling on what didn’t work in the past.
Trying something new, or a new approach to something you’ve been unsuccessful at in the past, means opening yourself up and experiencing vulnerability.
One method to help you prepare is to answer the following questions:
- What is your history with this goal? Did you go to a networking event and freeze when you were asked to stand up and introduce yourself? Did you try networking many times without getting leads or introductions?
- What do you tell yourself to explain this experience? “Networking doesn’t work for me.” “This is futile.”
- What will you tell yourself instead? “Up to now networking hasn’t worked for me.” “I can learn how to get better results networking.”
- What actions will you take in the future to change those results? Taking a workshop about job search networking? Reading networking tips? Practicing introducing yourself in front of a mirror or with a friend?
More small steps!
This article focused on how to lay the ground for success. These are all actions you can do on your own to clarify your goals, develop an action plan and motivate yourself to move into action.
Your Personal Professional Success Plan:
- Part 1: Goal Setting
- Part 2: Maintaining Momentum
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- Professional Success Plan, Part 2: Maintaining Momentum
- Job Search Advantages of Being Over 50
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About the author…
Phyllis Mufson is a career / business consultant and a certified life coach with over 25 years of experience. She has helped hundreds of clients successfully navigate career transitions. You can learn more about Phyllis and her practice at PhyllisMufson and follow Phyllis on Twitter @PhyllisMufson.
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